Reality, Bangladesh and me

What is real to me? Really, its a very complicated question. Do I really know this? In one sense everything is real to me, at the same time everything is may not be real to me. There is a question- who tell us that it is real? Who does construct the reality? Reality means what I believe. Reality means the existence of something. Normally, what we see we always believe them. But sometimes that may be not true. Our parents decide that it is real, it is true, that is not real etc. We are living in a constructed society. The society is constructed by the people. The whole system influence us to believe a thing. So, we can't say that this is real or that is not real. Reality is completely a abstract thought. In our country perspective, reality has many meaning. the first thing is we are Bangladeshi this a big reality. Why I am saying this the cause is that who defined that we are Bangladeshi? We can say, the world is our country. But this not true, every country has its own land area, different types of peoples, different culture etc. The social system is defined that you are Bangladeshi, we are American or others. In Bangladesh most of the peoples are below the poverty line. these peoples are not able to fulfil the basic five needs. Many people don't have any roof above their head, usually they eat two times in a day which is impossible to us. in the previous semester, I spend a whole day with the working people in Dhaka for a multimedia production. I was surprised to saw the construction worker. Any one can't imagine, they work everyday in road which is very hot place. We all know that road construction is really very unsafe. They boil koala for pitch and the place is very hot. I was sweating but they working. I asked them "How do you endure it?" they replied "It is our work and we are bound to do it." This the reality to them and to us also. However, different peoples have different types of reality. Women's are always physically and mentally torched by the man, this is a big reality. This is our social construction. When society defined something for us we can't ignore them, because we can't ignore the rules and regulations. Many people in our country think that women can't do many thing and they are bound to obey some rules which are created by man. But these are not real to me. I think I am a smart girl, I am doing my graduation, I will do what I want to. What people think about me that is not my concern. My concern is I always do what do I believe and what I want to do. This the big reality to me. Living in Dhaka is very difficult. every day we have to face big traffic jam that is a reality. We have solutions but we don't try, we already set our mind that traffic jam, corruption and problem with police are all reality. Now the situation are changing and we are seeing these are not real these are our constructed illusions. To me reality is totally different. I always try to evaluate things with my knowledge and brain. However I don't want to believe everything or any kind of illusions. Reality is nothing another, reality is what I am and my existence.